How To Start A Book Club
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I am a little too excited about today’s post. In fact, I apologize in advance because it began as a list of 5 tips and then somehow turned into a full-on comprehensive manual. But that’s because we’re talking about one of my favorite things in the entire world:
Yes, if you follow this blog or my Instagram, you will know that I’m a mega fan of my book club. I have been a part of it for 4 or 5 years now, but the group has actually been meeting even longer than that. It’s pretty much the best, if you ask me. And instead of fizzling out over the years, as I know happens to too many book clubs, ours somehow seems to keep getting better and better with age.
Part of the “success” (i.e. longevity and general awesomeness) of our book club is due to the fact that it is simply filled with some truly remarkable women. They are a smart and curious and interesting bunch who happen to love books and talking about books. And they also happen to be some of my closest friends. But I have to say that I think part of the group’s success is also due to a few simple tips we have learned along the way about how to sustain a large book club. And better yet, how to even make it thrive.
So for any of you readers out there who have asked about my book club over the years, who might have had one fizzle out, who might be looking to start one, or who might currently be a part of one and would love to just see how others work, this post is for you.
Here are my 5 tips for how to start a (stellar) book club…
5 Tips For How To Start A (Stellar) Book Club
1. Find a great group of people
Let’s be real. The people in a group will either make or break your book club. So find good ones!!
I highly recommend starting with friends you already know. Even better, find friends who you respect, and trust, and can be open with. Because talking about books (and the personal things that good books stir up) can be a fairly vulnerable experience at times. So it’s important to have friends in your circle who will encourage you to be honest and open and share your thoughts.
That said, I know that many book clubs begin with sign-ups from complete strangers. And often those strangers turn into good friends! So if that’s the route you take, it can definitely work. I would still encourage you to be open, and hopefully the trust and friendships will build over time.
The one thing I don’t recommend is starting a group with 100% like-minded people. Find people who are different! And can bring different perspectives to the table! Trust me, your time together will be all the richer for it. If my book club was filled with people who had the exact same political, social, theological, moral, artistic, and even culinary views, things would be ridiculously boring. It’s our differences — even those that may cause disagreements or make us squirm — that stretch and teach and challenge us to become more thoughtful readers and people, and make book club nights all the livelier.
So, bottom line, give some thought to the people you invite to be a part of your group. Because if things go well, you might be together for a long, long time. :)
How My Book Club Does It: We began our group with a circle of friends who had a love for books, and have expanded it over the years to friends of friends who love to read.
2. Make some important decisions together before you begin
As you’re talking with friends about possibly starting a book club, there are a few important things to evaluate (preferably) before you begin:
a. What kinds of books you want to read
It may seem like an obvious question, but it’s worth clarifying with your group beforehand.
Do you want your group to primarily discuss fiction? If so, do you prefer lighter (“beach reads”) or deeper (“literary”) books? Classical or modern? Long or short? Novels or mysteries or sci-fi or historical or humor or short stories…or a nice mix of everything?
Do you want your group to primarily discuss non-fiction? Is there a certain genre you prefer?
You can always mix things up once you get your group rolling. But it’s probably best to have at least a general idea going in.
b. How often you want to meet
As someone who has been a part of a many small groups of sorts over the years (book clubs, business groups, church small groups, etc.), I’m a big believer in the importance of groups meeting regularly. And if possible, fairly often. If you space out your in-person gatherings too far apart, a group can lose momentum, especially if someone misses a meeting or two.
Whatever you decide, though, stick to it. Even if just two people show up, stick to it. Demonstrate to one another and yourselves that you’re serious about the group. And hey — you’ve hopefully read the book, right? So you’re going to want to get together to talk about it!
The other important thing? I recommend scheduling your meetings at least a month or two in advance. Everyone has busy schedules, and this will help ensure that your book club meetings are on the calendar early.
How My Book Club Does It: We always meet once a month, generally on a Saturday evening from about 6:30 until late, and schedule our meetings about 3 months in advance.
c. Where you want to meet
Some book clubs that I know meet in coffee shops. Some meet in bars. Some meet in workplaces. Some meet in churches. But most seem to meet in the homes of group members, which is the case with ours. And I love it. I love getting the chance to spend time in my friends’ homes and get a context for where they live. I love how cozy and comfortable it is, even when we’re all squished together in a living room. I love getting to eat the random smorgasbord of snacks and drinks that we bring to share. And I love how our group, specifically, shakes it up by rotating to a different group member’s home each month.
Wherever you decide to meet, I would recommend keeping a few priorities in mind:
–Find a place that can fit your entire group. If you meet in a restaurant or coffee shop, be sure that someone arrives early to reserve a table. If you meet in a person’s home, be ready with whatever is needed to host your size of group.
–Find a place that’s relatively free of distractions. The whole point of a book club is being able to talk. If a restaurant is too loud, or if there are roommates or family members poking their heads in every few minutes, it can be a little distracting. So wherever you meet, try and carve out an uninterrupted space for at least a few hours for the group to focus on their time together.
–Find a place that is convenient. One of the reasons our book club rotates homes is to make the location more convenient for different people each month. We have some members who live nearly an hour away from downtown KC, and some who live right next door to one another in the middle of town. So we switch it up in order to not make the same people always be the ones driving the farthest.
How My Book Club Does It: We rotate meeting at different group members’ houses each month. With 15+ friends in our group, this means that we may only meet at a person’s house once a year or less. Some houses are wonderfully spacious. Some are wonderfully cozy. We love them all, and will sit on chairs, sofas, floors, you name it. If a group member does not want to host, though, there is no pressure to do so.
d. How you want to spend your time together
Actually, this is probably The Most Important Question when creating your book club.
How much do you really want to talk about the book?
Answer this question honestly together. And know that there’s also no “wrong” answer! There are probably three basic categories your book club could fall into:
–The Social Book Club: Some groups that I know use “book club” more as an excuse just to get together, or have a night out, or drink wine, or impress one another with their culinary creations. Maybe that means that a few of the club members will actually read the book, or maybe they’ll talk about it when they’re together for a few minutes, and they love it that way. If the point of your club is socializing and not book-ish, just be sure and set a clear expectation for that before you begin.
–The All-About-The-Book Club: Other groups that I know only want to talk about the books. This can be especially true of groups whose members don’t know one another well to begin with, or groups that actually are genuinely there with the complete intention of talking as long as possible about all things literary. For them, extra chit-chat or small talk is frustrating. So if this is the type of group you want to create, again, set that expectation.
–The Social AND Mostly-About-The-Book Club: This is where my group falls. We literally divide our time together down the middle. We spend the first hour or so of our time doing some serious hanging out. We talk, we eat, we drink, we catch up, and we don’t really talk about the book. But then about an hour (or hour-and-a-half) in, the point person pushes people to wrap it up and we move into seriously talking about the book for at least an hour or so. Then we usually spend an additional half hour talking about what book we want to choose next (so many opinions!). And then after that, everyone usually hangs out awhile longer and just chats. The key for us has been predictability with this model, and always having everyone present for the book discussion, even if they didn’t read the book.
I say this is the most important question because it’s the reason so many friends’ book clubs have fallen apart. If expectations aren’t clearly laid out beforehand about how time together will be spent, people tend to have differing thoughts on where priorities should lie…and get disappointed…and then often quit. Instead, just be sure to talk about this openly and find people who want a similar focus, and you should be good to go.
How My Book Club Does It: As I said, we do about an equal split of social time and lets-get-down-to-business-and-talk-about-the-book time. It seems to be win-win for us.
e. What happens if someone does not read the book
I strongly recommend inviting people to come even if they haven’t read the book. I was part of a group once that asked non-book-finishers to stay quiet during the book talk, or have heard of others that actually don’t allow people to come if they haven’t completed the book. If that’s how you choose to roll, so be it. But our book club has found that those who didn’t finish the book usually still have something valuable to contribute to the discussion, and they probably want to come and hear what others thought about it. So if you can, clearly communicate that everyone’s invited whether they read 0% or 100% of the book. (Can you tell I’m a Kindle-r now?)
How My Book Club Does It: Everyone’s invited! All the time!
f. Whether your group is “open” or “closed” to new members
This decision may change during different seasons of your book club’s life together. If people move or become too busy or just need to drop out for awhile, or if for any reason you have room for more group members, then by all means — open your group up to new people who might be interested!
But also don’t feel badly if you need to “close” your group to new members for awhile. Many groups seem to feel guilt over this, but it’s a natural part of the process for keeping your attendance at a healthy level where everyone can participate and feel known/comfortable. Just be sure that everyone is on board with the decision either way.
How My Book Club Does It: We were “open” the past few years, but reached a point where the group was too large to fit in some members’ living rooms. And it just became borderline too big to allow everyone a chance to contribute to the group discussion. So we’re currently “closed”, but plan to re-evaluate that in 6 months.
3. Choose a “point person” for each book/meeting
Book clubs don’t necessarily need a “leader”. But they usually do need a point person to get things moving and help organize a few things. There may end up being one person who just naturally fills that roll. Or your group may need to appoint someone, or rotate that responsibility between different people.
Job responsibilities of a “point person” might include:
- Send out emails/texts about the details (when/where/book/misc.) for upcoming meetings
- Help kick off the book discussion during a meeting (which can be as simple as, “So, what did you all think about the book?”)
- Set plans for the next book club meeting
- Bring up any book club “business” that the group might need to discuss
- Keep up with any important traditions in your specific book club (ex. in our book club, whoever is hosting that night is the point person, and is also in charge of writing down quotes in our quote book)
Again, most book clubs tend to be self-led. But our group has found it helpful to have someone take the initiative on some things, especially when the group gets large.
How My Book Club Does It: We had a super-awesome point person, our friend Maux, fulfill most of the roles above for years. But we recently transitioned to more of a rotating “point person” system. It’s nothing fancy. Whoever is hosting the next book club is in charge of sending out emails and facilitating the meeting at their house. Additionally, if a specific person in the group has recommended the book we are reading, that person will often naturally be the “point person” to help facilitate the actual discussion of that book.
4. Choose some (hopefully) good books
This is the goal of all book clubs, right? Alas, if only we could predict good books with 100% reliability. :)
Our group aims to choose good books, and have had many successes. But we also still have plenty of duds, disagreements, and do-not-ever-make-me-read-that-author-again books along the way. You can view the full list of books that we have read on the right-hand sidebar on our book club blog. If you are looking for suggestions, a few of our top-rated books have included:
- Gilead, by Marilynne Robinson (my personal favorite)
- Jayber Crow, by Wendell Berry
- Let The Great World Spin, by Colum McCann
- My Name Is Asher Lev, by Chaim Potok
- Saturday, by Iam McEwan
- The Devil In The White City, by Erik Larson
- The Elegance Of The Hedgehog, by Muriel Barbery
- The Fault In Our Stars, by John Green
- The Great Gatsby, by F. Scott Fitzgerald
- What Is The What, by Dave Eggers
If you are just starting a group and are looking for some good reads, I would recommend asking friends for recommendations and also checking out some online reading lists, including:
- Amazon’s 100 Books To Read In A Lifetime
- Good Read’s Popular Book Club Books
- The New York Times 100 Most Notable Books Of The Year
- TED Recommended Reading List
- Time Magazine’s All Time Top 100 Novels
Bottom line — you win some, you lose some, with book club picks. The good news is that both kinds of books can still make for great discussion.
How My Book Club Does It: We sure LOVE to talk about book selection, and probably spend at least a half hour or so each meeting throwing out various titles that people recommend (often with a show and tell copy to pass around). But when it comes down to it, we usually have way too many options and end up chaotically choosing something on impulse. Sometimes this works out for the better, and sometimes we wish we would have more thoroughly vetted our options. But either way, every book comes via personal recommendation from a group member.
5. And…Get Started! Read! Meet! Create new traditions! Have a bookish blast!
You can plan all day long. But the fun of book clubs is actually getting started!!
Our book club honestly began with hardly any of these details in place, and then we figured things out along the way. So the important thing is just to grab a good book and get started! You will find your groove as you keep meeting and will learn what works for you.
In addition to the discussion of books, I also encourage you to look for ways that you can make your book club uniquely YOURS. Our group has come up with a number of traditions over the years, which you are free to adopt. Some of those include:
1. The Thumb Vote: If you follow the #kcbookies hashtag on Instagram, you will learn that there is a beloved way that we share our feelings about the month’s book pick called the “thumb vote”. If you read and finished the book, you hold up one fist. If you read but didn’t finish the book, you hold up a fist and then a high-five with your other hand. If you didn’t read the book at all, you hold up two high fives. Then on the count of three, those who read at least some of the book turn their fist into a thumb vote, and rate the book anywhere from “awful” (thumb down) to “stellar” (thumb up) rating. Then we pause for a second and oooh and ahh and take stock of the group vote. It’s a great way to kick off our group discussions and see what everyone thought. You can see examples in the photo below.
2. The Quote Book: As also mentioned above, we have a little journal that we bring to every meeting to record — not the wise literary quotes about the book of the evening — but rather the ridiculous and hilarious things that our members somehow say each week. And then we happily reference this book every now and then (and usually have zero context for or memory of said quotes, which makes them all the weirder).
3. The “Last One Finished” Award: We also take a poll at the beginning of each book club to see who was the last person to finish the book. Without fail, someone tends to finish the book within a few hours of book club beginning, which we call #winning.
4. So. Much. Food. Our bookies are also quite good cooks. So each of our meetings usually include a pretty tasty spread of things to enjoy while we hang out at the beginning of book club. I say usually because occasionally there is zero food, which makes us bookies very sad. So then the following month, there is too much food. And the pendulum swings…because we do not like to plan the food.
5. So. Much. Wine. And beer. Or whatever signature cocktail of the evening might be served (like delicious juleps for Gatsby night). Ok not “so much” as in too much. But enough to make the night a little more lively. And the quote book a little more entertaining.
6. Annual Campouts: Once a year, usually in September, we have an annual book club campout. This takes place on our book club night of the month and is held either on a lovely lake or in the backyard of one of our members who lives in an awesome farmhouse out in the country. Book discussions and thumb votes happen per usual. Sleeping outside is not required. And we welcome those who can only come for part of the evening. But it’s always one of our favorite nights of the year, and accomplishes all of that good relationship-building stuff that staying up late and sleeping with the bugs and seeing each other first thing in the morning tends to do.
7. Movie Nights: If we read a book that has a corresponding movie, we will usually have an in-home movie night or make a trip to the theater to see the film together.
8. Our Blog and Facebook page: We also have a blog that we update when we feel like it with random tidbits about the books we read. And we just started a private FB page so that we can communicate with other better between book clubs (instead of endless email streams). Both are fun places to share things that we might not get to during meetings.
More than anything, though, we just have a great time together. And like good wine and good books, it seems like book club gets even better with age. ;)
Welp, that’s how we do it! Probably way more info than you were looking for. But if you’re interested in starting a book club, hopefully at least a few of these tips might help. And if you already have a book club and would to like to share some tips of your own, the comment section is yours for the writing!
A big shout out to all of my fellow KC Bookies for being the inspiration for this post.
Book clubs FTW!
Love this!! We had an awesome book club at my office, but then it just kind of died out… Now that I just moved to a new town, I kind of want to look into joining one or starting my own. Great advice :)
What an awesome post! I would love to be in a book club, these are great tips to get one started :)
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I love this post! My book club will celebrate its first anniversary in a few months so the tips on making it last are so appreciated. I love the idea of an annual campout! For our book club, members take turns picking books and that person is also in charge of choosing a restaurant for our meeting. We try to pick spots that match the theme of the book, it’s so fun trying out new places!
Ah…bookclub. I was in one for years and it fizzed out. You have totally inspired me to try and get another one up and running. You have also given me some great new ideas. Thanks gor a great post!!
FTW! Y’all are my favorite!
Great post, Amiga. I giggled out loud SEVERAL times.
Fantastic post! I’ve been toying with the idea of starting a book club, but had no idea where to even begin. This post is super informative!
I love this! My book club is very small and we usually only have about 4 each month but I love it. I can’t wait to use some of these ideas.
Fun, Ali. Great info here!
I have been saying for ages that I wanted to start a book club! This blog post really has me inspired to finally get it started!
Love the tips! Thanks for posting this!!
I’ve been wanting to join a book club for a while now and this post just gave me the inspiration to try and start my own. Thanks for the great tips!
I love this! I have been wanting to find a book club but didn’t even know where to begin. I also love adding in the food & wine. I have been wanting to do a version of this and a version of something with cookbooks.
I would love to start a book club or join one! I’ve thought about it over the past few years but haven’t found any close by.
PLEASE HELP! I really loved your article and all your advice. I’ve been wanting to start a book club in my rather large subdivision as a way to make new friends as well as reap the benefits of a book club.
Our neighborhood uses the mobile app Nextdoor so I thought that would be a great place to advertise a book club. My problem is that I don’t know what to say. How do I attract people that read the same kind of books I do (and hopefully women around the same age) and how do I keep from getting too many responses? Assuming I get too many responses, how do I pick and choose and tell the others no?
Hey Amanda! Sorry for the late response — I’ve been out of town and am catching up. That’s AWESOME that you want to start a book club! Maybe to start, try throwing out a few titles of books that you really like that would be along the lines of the genre you’re hoping to read. Then people can at least have an idea of whether or not that will be a fit for them. And don’t be afraid to limit the number of people in the group! I recommend starting smaller than larger, and then perhaps inviting your core people to invite a friend or two to join as well once your group forms.
Also, if you’re worried about having people in the group who aren’t a fit, don’t be afraid to try a “short-term” group to begin — for 3 months or so. Once that time is over, if the group needs to reorganize according to different interests/preferences, they will have had a heads-up that things aren’t permanent.
Ali! This is an awesome article! I’m just starting a book club and I’m so excited! I was in a great book club for years but I moved an hour away and our lives just got too full to keep it going. I appreciate you sharing your club’s experiences.
Thsnks for the tips.evrn though we have been a club for months now we love getting suggestion from our sister club . especially one with longevity.
Your new page is beautiful. Just thought I would share the book I started reading in my book club, The Invitation by Dawn Kohler. Thanks for the idea. We hope to make it last!
My friends and I are having our very first club meeting on December 5th, and we are pretty clueless about how to lead/moderate it. Thanks so much for your tips! I especially love the idea of keeping a quote book! I hope ours turns out to be as successful, long lasting, and fun as yours!
This sounds just like our Bookclub. We love it!! Like the idea of a campout and your quotes/record book! At Christmas we all wrap up a book we’ve loved , put them in a pile in thd middle and choose one. We’ve been going strong for 3 and a half years. …x
Excellent advice!! I’m about to start a book club and I’m so thankful for your post! Now I’m ready . . .
I came across your post on Pinterest and you can’t imagine how much of help it was! Seriously, I’ve been on the lookout for good advice on how to start a book club and haven’t found anything remotely as good as yours! Thanks alot!
Thank you for sharing your book club wisdom! We are starting a book club with my close group of friends and I appreciate the advice and inspiration! (:
You’re so welcome Cait, have fun!
What fun ideas!! We are just starting up a book club and I was so happy to stumble onto your blog. I love the creativity and fun it sounds like your book group has. Thank you for sharing.
Awesome — so exciting to hear that your book club is just beginning! Hope you all have a great time together! :)
The thought of starting my own book club recently came to mind when I was reading a book that I could not help but share with anyone who would listen, it was never something I ever thought of doing and I have never attended a book club in the past, but I have always loved to read and I love having discussions on the different books that I have read with friends and family, so I thought that starting a book club would be a great idea!. This was the first article I read on book clubs and I am happy to say that it has inspired and motivated me. Thank you for sharing your tips and the traditions that your group have come up with, particularly on the quote book. I am so excited to get started! :)
The idea of starting my own book club only recently came to mind when I was reading a particular book that I could not help but share with anyone who would listen, it was not something I ever thought about doing and I have never attended a book club in the past but I love to read and have discussions on different books with friends and family, to me, reading is like therapy! So, I thought starting a book club would be a great idea! This is the first article I have read on book clubs and I have to say, it has inspired and motivated me. Thank you for sharing your tips and the traditions your group have come up with, particularly the book of quotes. I am so excited to get started!
Thanks Chanelle! We hope you have a blast, they’re so much fun!
Aren’t there any men who would like a bookclub also?
I pray that someone is able to respond because it seems like there haven’t been comments in a while. This is going to sound like a ridiculous question, but how do you decide how much is read by each meeting? Meaning, should you have finished the entire book by each monthly meeting? I know there are no firm rules, but I’m seeking guidelines since I’m seriously wanting to start my own book club. The issue is that I’m a mom of two (7 months, and 3), and the friends I have in mind love to read but have small children as well. For a great book, I try to make the time, but I definitely don’t want to pressure any other Moms and make it less fun. With that said, I’m seeking a way to carve out time for us mamas who love to read, but have minimal time. Any suggestions would be appreciated!
Hi Janaé! Honestly, it’s up to you. :) If your goal is to have a book read in two months, versus one, for example, then maybe your goal is for folks to have read half the book (pick a chapter) for the first meeting, and have it finished for the second meeting. Make sense? Good luck to you!
Do you still have an active book club?
Thank you for such great ideas! I’m retiring after 31 years as a teacher, and I want to start a book club in my neighborhood. Your post has given me great ideas with which to start. I love the camping idea, except my idea of camping is a Holiday Inn instead of a Hilton. Hope to have my book club up and rolling by the end of the summer.
Thank you so very much for this post! I have wanted to start a book club forever but never knew where to start. This has been incredibly helpful! Thank you again!!!!
I’ve been on the fence about starting a book club because I didn’t really know where to start or what to do AND I didn’t want to start a book club only to have it die. So your post was on point perfection for me! Thank you. (:
Wow, Ali! This is what I am looking for! I’m starting today!
Thank you to sharing your best experiences.
Thank you so very much for your thoughts and insights.
I will be using your outline to begin our neighborhood club.
Thank you for such a great description of ideas and different processes. I’m starting a book club next week and appreciate these tips!
If reading the book (or not finishing the book) is not a requirement, what is the minimum number of people or suggested number of people to make for a good discussion?